How to survive a breakup

What can we do to get through a breakup more comfortably?

Accept the pain

When we’re with loved ones and feel happiness, warmth, and love, the area of ​​the brain responsible for pleasure is activated. The same area is activated when you eat delicious food (that’s why you crave ice cream like Bridget Jones), win a prize, or get that new job you’ve always wanted.

When experiencing loss, the area of ​​the brain responsible for physical pain is activated. This is why it feels like real pain.

It’s perfectly normal to experience different emotions; it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. The worst thing you can do is deny that you’re having a hard time. Give yourself time to miss the times that were.

Stop looking for past emotions

After a breakup, we still crave the same emotions and experiences. We can continue to look through photos, social media, and reread messages.

If you don’t have anything in common (shared property, children, animals), it’s better to refrain from contact.

Less attention to social media, more attention to yourself

Meet new people, call or visit family, go to a museum you’ve always dreamed of visiting. Think about what you’ve been putting off? Now is the time to do it.

Teach yourself, your reactions, thoughts, experiences.

Sometimes the pain goes away faster, but it can take longer for the wounds of a breakup to heal.

If the pain of a breakup is so strong that you can’t move on, consult a therapist; they will help you through this process.